Ambiguous Loss

Ambiguous Loss

Ambiguous loss ⁣ ⁣ We don’t talk about it enough, or much at all. We wake, we breathe, we go about our days, we sleep. We repeat. In that hustling and shuffling about while being human, there are clear gains. And clear losses. Birth, death. Life lived, life ended....
Feel it to Heal it

Feel it to Heal it

Oooo that super scary F-word… feelings! ⁣ I think about this often; what is it about feelings that are so scary for people?⁣ ⁣ Doing clinical work over the years with kids as compared to adult clients is funny (not funny). Adults come in, you ask how they are,...
Self-Regulation

Self-Regulation

Self-regulation does not mean not feeling. As crazy as it sounds, I have had conversations over the years with widows, mothers who have buried their children, veterans who lost their buddies in theatre, so very many conversations, all the while explaining that it’s...
Trauma doesn’t require memory.

Trauma doesn’t require memory.

“Not having a memory, doesn’t mean you don’t remember.” ⁣ An active working memory is not a requirement for an active trauma response, despite popular misconception. ⁣ ⁣ Have you ever had a panic attack? The sense that something is about to...
All Trauma is Contagious

All Trauma is Contagious

When you were a child, did anyone have to tell you when something was wrong? Did it have to be explained to you? Or was it that you intuitively knew, that your body spoke to you and told you something was wrong?⁣ It’s the latter, never the former. ⁣ Trauma is not...