Scenes from the Loveseat.

Scenes from the Loveseat.

Sometimes when I write I will talk about something that I call “Scenes From The Loveseat” meaning day in day out I sit with people, an endless stream seeking help. And time and time again I see the same thing. Oftentimes what we call a mental health diagnosis is just...
Seeking Safety

Seeking Safety

Above image illustrated by Kieran Blakey. “The System in the body that down-regulates defense is also anti-inflammatory.” – Dr. Stephen W. Porges The almighty vagus nerve, our 10th cranial nerve, leaves the central nervous system and innervates (connects/taps...
Divorce can be an act of love!

Divorce can be an act of love!

“Divorce can be an act of love.”   Yes, that might sound strange at first – even provocative – but we would like to challenge the general idea of divorce as a reason to hate your ex spouse, and as something that must be ugly, conflict filled and...
Trauma Model

Trauma Model

Despite loving being a therapist, my field is extraordinarily broken at the moment. The good news is that we are at the precipice of a paradigm shift in mindset. The bad news is that systems have yet to catch on, ergo perpetuating trauma inside of what is supposed to...
Psychological Safety

Psychological Safety

The system is not designed to protect our psychological safety. Although life is opening back up, people are boostered, and hot girl summer is around the corner, there are some pandemic ripples that are still in big motion.⁣ ⁣ Anyone who has picked up the phone,...