Scenes from the Loveseat.

Scenes from the Loveseat.

Sometimes when I write I will talk about something that I call “Scenes From The Loveseat” meaning day in day out I sit with people, an endless stream seeking help. And time and time again I see the same thing. Oftentimes what we call a mental health diagnosis is just...
Seeking Safety

Seeking Safety

Above image illustrated by Kieran Blakey. “The System in the body that down-regulates defense is also anti-inflammatory.” – Dr. Stephen W. Porges The almighty vagus nerve, our 10th cranial nerve, leaves the central nervous system and innervates (connects/taps...
Divorce can be an act of love!

Divorce can be an act of love!

“Divorce can be an act of love.”   Yes, that might sound strange at first – even provocative – but we would like to challenge the general idea of divorce as a reason to hate your ex spouse, and as something that must be ugly, conflict filled and...
Trauma Model

Trauma Model

Despite loving being a therapist, my field is extraordinarily broken at the moment. The good news is that we are at the precipice of a paradigm shift in mindset. The bad news is that systems have yet to catch on, ergo perpetuating trauma inside of what is supposed to...